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Definition of Sexual Intimacy
could be different to different people, and this is usually true when two partners try to
define sexual intimacy. It is a good practice for couples to write down their definitions
of sexual intimacy and compare each other thoughts about it. Each individual can put down
what kind of activities did one include as being intimate; how much communication should
there be between partners to acknowledge or share an intimate experience; what is the
preferred balance between maintaining one's independence and becoming increasingly
intimate with a partner. Having couples discuss their views openly, one can learn much
about their beliefs, attitudes and preferences regarding intimacy and their sexual
relationship.
Introducing Viagra and more promises of additional new drugs being developed for both
men and women sexual dysfunction are a revolutionary advance in the treatment of sexual
dysfunction's. But, there are no possibility to be developed a "magic pill" for
the more common problem of dysfunctional relationships. While some couples will
surely experience greater intimacy in their relationship as a result of improved sexual
functioning brought about by Viagra and other treatments, others will be confronted with
the lack of intimacy in their relationships when they have a possible obstacle, like a
sexual dysfunction, removed.
It is important to recognize that while sexual intimacy may
be something partners experience together, it need not be the only area in their lives
where they share intimacy. There are several other areas where intimacy might be
created. It is unwise to expect any one person to be able to fulfill all of the
needs of another person.
Another important function that a lack of sexual intimacy may
serve is to enable a person to avoid feelings of anxiety or low self-esteem that are
related to perceived sexual inadequacies. For example, in The New Male Sexuality
(1992), Bernie Zilbergeld writes that fear related to "performance anxiety" is
the number one reason men give when asked why their sexual relationships are not more
satisfactory. Of course, women also may have anxieties or self- doubts about their sexual
attractiveness and functioning.
The lack of sexual intimacy is driven by a discrepancy in
sexual desire (something for which there is not yet a medicine or pill). There are a lot
of reasons why an individual may have a low sex drive, it is important to recognize that
fluctuations in the quality of our sexual relationships are commonplace even among couples
who do not seek treatment. It is normal for couples to struggle with issues related to
decreased sexual intimacy at some time in their lives together. The extent to which such
couples regain the level of satisfaction with their sexual relationship that they
experienced previously is largely dependent on how well they can overcome common barriers
to establishing greater intimacy in their general relationship.
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